Wedding Wednesday- Planning the Timeline

by - Wednesday, May 16, 2012

One of the big missions we have been taking on this week is making our first set timeline for all of the wedding events. This whole thing is scary to me, not only because I am never on time, but because it really makes me realize how short these days are!

The first thing this makes me realize is how little time we have to spend with people. I am glad that we are scheduling in extra events like bowling on Friday night (which solves a number of problems of who goes where as well) and the brunch Sunday. At the same time, you start to realize the number of hours you are expecting from your nearest and dearest, and you have to worry you aren't giving them enough time to chill. You don't want to push them too hard! People need a break!

 Building a timeline also makes me notice that you don't really get a ton of time to decorate, so now I am trying to scale back some of my vision in terms of what can be decorated in 7 hours. I also worry no one will come help us decorate, but that is just silliness. These are the two things that I can't help but notice as coming up as the timeline solidifies.

The trickier part, in terms of just not knowing what the heck we are doing, is planning what the Day of is supposed to look like. I have been looking up lots of timelines that are first look specific, and they mostly look like this:

11:45 Photographer Arrives
12:00 – 12:45 Capture Groom Getting Ready, Details, & Groomsmen Shots
1:00 – 1:30 Bride details & Finishing of Hair and Make Up
1:30 – 2:00 Get into dress & Bridal Portraits
2:00 – 2:15 First Look
2:15 – 3:00 Couple Portraits
3:10 – 4:00 Bridal Party & Family Portraits
4:00 – 4:30 Shoot Ceremony Details & Guests Arriving
4:30 – 5:00 Ceremony
5:00 – 6:00 Shoot Cocktail Hour and Reception Details
6:00 – 9:00 – Reception

One challenge is that none of them take  travel time into account. I mean, the truth is that it is slightly disappointing how much of the day is taken up by photography. It is also stressful that with a larger wedding party, you spend way too much of the day getting hair done. These things really bug me, but what can you do? I also have a dream where we could actually be at some chunk of our cocktail hour, but I think I am kidding myself. The only thing I know we will do that will help is move some of the family portraits to be taken there, rather than in our dark church. I also need to email our photographers so I can get some straightforward feedback about what other things we can do to keep things moving along (one big plus is that we have two photographers, so some of this stuff can happen simultaneously). I think part of the deal is that we will just have to scale back photos, asking hard questions about what we really need versus how these things can get overblown.

I think we have just hit that turn in the road where reality starts to hit, and I think that is all good as long as you can keep your priorities in check and think in terms of problem solving rather than stress. Do people have any tips for how to keep the day moving/ focused on the things that really matter?

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